We are all well aware that there are many factors besides physical attractiveness that go into the decision of whether or not a girl is going to sleep with a guy – and each has their own complex set of standards.
Does he have a bad reputation? Does he dress well? Does he always text you back quickly enough?
However, there is one criterion that is rarely talked about. It's so rarely brought up that guys probably don’t know you’re judging them on it at all – his bed. Is it a dirty mattress laid on the floor littered with stains? While most guys may think that having good game is all that it takes to get a girl to sleep with them once they’re in the bedroom, our recent survey shows that’s usually not the case.
We asked 80 sexually active girls aged 18-25, questions pertaining to how a man’s bed affects their sexual attractiveness, as well as their overall perception of them. The results may surprise you.
Comfortable Bed Makes You More Desirable
A whopping 66% of the women who responded say that they’re more likely to have sex with a guy if his bed and sheets are comfortable.
That number only rises when a girl is deciding whether to sleep with a guy again. When asked if they would be more likely to sleep with you a second time if his bed was very comfortable, nearly 70% said they would be.
Conversely, 67% of those responded that they were indeed LESS likely to sleep with a guy if his bed was too small, or too uncomfortable.
The results seem pretty clear. A man’s bed appears to most definitely be a decision making factor for a majority of girls. But what exactly do these women consider an ideal bed?
What Makes an Ideal Bed?
When asked that question, most of the women brought up the same general criteria – Size, Comfort, Cleanliness, the “Sound Factor”, and a good “Pillow Game”.
Where Size Does Matter
By far the most common response given in regards to ideal bed criteria, had to do with size. Most of the women who mentioned size, indicated that they related a man’s bed sized with his maturity level. Unlike some things in the bedroom, when it comes to a man’s bed, bigger is definitely better. For the women who said size was a factor, anything less than a full-sized bed was a red flag. They also indicated that a Queen size or greater was preferable.
“SINGLE SIZE IS JUST EMBARRASSING, NO MATTER HOW COMFY.”
A Bed Comfy Enough For A Princess
While most girls aren’t going to be that much of a diva about it, they do appreciate a very comfortable bed. The respondents indicated a soft bed with soft, quilt covers was ideal. A memory foam or pillow top mattress was preferable to a regular innerspring mattress.
Mr. Clean is Sexy
Guys, you might not be able to smell your sheets you haven’t washed in a month, but the girl you bring back with you probably can. Cleanliness of the bed was a major factor for our survey respondents. The majority of women said that experiencing dirty or stained bedding is a big turnoff, and can ultimately cause them to decide to spend the night at home. That doesn’t just mean a quick Fabreeze shower either – freshly washed & stain-free sheets are essential.
“NO SMELL. NO STAINS. IF THE SHEETS SMELL LIKE CLEAN LAUNDRY IT’S A PLUS.“
Pillow Game On Point
Another very common response given was in regards to the pillow situation. Most girls who went through college probably experienced sleeping with the guy who had one flimsy pancake of a pillow that he expected to share between the two of them. This is a no-go. Most of the respondents said they preferred lots of big, high-quality, comfortable pillows. They also definitely wanted to have their own without sharing it with a guy. Our advice – however many pillows you sleep on, buy at least 2 more in case you have a girl sleeping over.
You’re not a bug, so get off the floor!
Some guys may think the girl doesn’t notice that their bed is just a mattress on the floor – think again. Our girls said they can, and do, care if the guy doesn’t have a real bed frame. We all know money can be tight in uni – but if you can afford beer money for a month, you can afford a $100 bed frame off ebay. Additionally, many of the girls indicated having an actual headboard for holding on to, or even for some kinky handcuff play, was also a big plus.
“I NEVER SLEEP WITH A MAN WHO HAS NOTHING BUT A MATTRESS ON THE FLOOR. RED. FLAG.”
So to summarize, women clearly relate a man’s bed to his maturity level, his cleanliness, & his priorities. One of the women said, “A guy usually treats their bed like they treat the rest of their lives..” and I think that’s a great way to explain it. The ideal bed for most girls is big, with a soft mattress, fluffy, clean bed sheets, and lots of comfy pillows. If you’re a guy reading this and don’t meet any of these criteria, maybe you should think about skipping the bar for a few weeks & upgrading your quilt covers.
Here are some other actual anecdotes from our respondents:
“One night I was sleeping in a guy’s bed that was extremely uncomfortable (1 blanket, 1 pillow), so I straight up just left in the middle of the night to go sleep in my own bed. After that, it was too awkward to hang out with him again.”
I went to this guy’s house once and his bed was on the floor. I pretended that my roommate had an emergency and left.
This one guy’s bed, let alone room, was a laundry tornado and I saw his sheets and ran… You could tell he didn’t wash them, not only from a few nameless stains, but also because it smelled like dirty laundry.
My ex boyfriend had the comfiest bed sheets that I’ve ever slept on. So comfortable that I kept having sex with him after we broke up because I missed the bed sheets.
So it appears we can confidently say, girls really are bed snobs!